What’s with NYC mayors and marriage?

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Jul 06, 2023 View in browser   By Julia Marsh and Hajah Bah Former New York Mayor Bill de Blasio and his wife, Chirlane McCray, said the rigors of public life took a serious toll on their bond. | Bebeto Matthews/AP Photo Rudy Giuliani split from his wife while he was mayor. Ed Koch was a (closeted) bachelor. Michael Bloomberg was divorced. Eric Adams has never married. And now Bill de Blasio is separated. In fact, only one recent New York City mayor was wed to his wife for several decades. Newsday’s Matt Chayes noted this fact on Twitter on Wednesday, after The New York Times published its summertime talker about de Blasio’s conscious uncoupling from longtime spouse Chirlane McCray. The exception was, of course, David Dinkins. He was married to his wife Joyce for over 60 years until her death just a month before his. What’s going on with the rest of them? Is it the extreme narcissism of politicians? The demands of the job? The pressures of the spotlight? It’s likely a combination of the above, according to four Brooklyn-based couples therapists who spoke to POLITICO about the pattern.   “It might just be hard to nurture a marriage and give it the energy and commitment it needs, and also devote yourself full-time to the work of the mayor,” said Ladi Agahiu, a psychoanalyst. “I commend our prior mayor and his wife for openly discussing the challenges and choosing what might be an unconventional path,” Agahiu said. (De Blasio and McCray plan to continue living together while dating other people.) Couples counselor Joseph Teskey said the power imbalance inherent in many political marriages can make the unions untenable. “If one person’s job always takes precedence over everything else that’s going on, there’s just no way around it. It’s going to be hard on the relationship,” Teskey said. Barbara D’Amato, a psychoanalyst who practices in both Brooklyn and Manhattan, agreed about the problems with asymmetrical relationships. “Resentment builds for the partners. You have this huge, powerful person and your partner is this intimate person on the sidelines. I don’t see how a relationship could possibly survive,” D’Amato said. Then there’s the reality that New York City mayors — even those who claim their careers were preordained by God — are just like the rest of us with our imperfect personal lives and nontraditional families. “Marriage and the conceptions of marriage are all changing significantly over time,” said psychologist Diana Morozov. “Divorce rates are very high in general." IT’S THURSDAY. WHERE’S KATHY? In Erie County with no immediate schedule.  WHERE’S ERIC? No public event scheduled. QUOTE OF THE DAY: “We’re overworked and underpaid. 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