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There's a good chance most of the problems in your life and work come down to insufficient slack. Here's how slack works and why you need more of it.
EXPLORE YOUR CURIOSITY
★ "That thing that made you weird as a kid could make you great as an adult — if you don't lose it."
★ "The majority of the time you spend sport climbing, you're failing: falling off and then trying to figure out how not to fall. Climbing reminds you that to get better at anything, you've got to put in a tremendous amount of time and effort and keep beating your head against a wall to figure it out."
TIMELESS INSIGHTS
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"You can't outrun your pain. You are strong enough to face whatever is in front of you. Medicating your pain will only bring more pain. The only genuine shortcut life offers is facing your feelings. They won't kill you. Feelings are your soul's way of communicating. Pain is trying to teach you something, and if you don't listen now, it will speak louder and louder until it is heard."
— Jewel in Never Broken (p. 377)
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On Learning to Argue
"Once people accept the case for why you need to be exposed to people who disagree with you, and who challenge your ideas, then the question is, how do you do it? And here I have two recommendations. One, the one that worked for me, that really helped me, because I was an arrogant argumentative teenager and young adult, is reading Dale Carnegie's book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. And it's so easy once you read it. It's a great book, it's a really fun book. And what he teaches you is, don't come out saying, "You're wrong and here's why." Come out saying, "Oh, that's very interesting. I think you're right about that one thing there." Or, "We have this in common." Or, "I can understand why you're saying that," or, "Here's something in my experience that confirms what you said." And once you start by agreeing on something, then you can pivot to, "But now on the other hand, it seems to me that..." and then you can raise your point. And then you're much more likely to persuade the person ... If you're a Homo sapien, you evolved for group combat, you evolved for confirmation bias and motivated reasoning. We're not really evolved to be academics or scientists searching for truth in an unbiased way. We evolved to basically CYA, and win in social competitions. But if you learn some skills, you can actually be very effective as a teacher, as someone who persuades, as someone who changes people."
— Jonathan Haidt on TKP
TINY THOUGHT
The cost of making decisions to please others instead of yourself is misery.
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P.S. I had no idea this is how it was done.
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