Today’s post is the third in a series on executive functions, the life skills we should have learned but probably didn’t. Previous posts: Comments are open on all of these posts. As always, if you have a moment, please click the ‘like’ button at the top or bottom! ❤️ “Bad with Money?” Maybe There’s More to ItAre you “just bad with money” or is there something else going on?
“I’m paying for a subscription I’m not using, but the company makes users call to cancel. Month after month, the bill comes due. I think about canceling, but it’s too difficult, so I keep paying.” “I downloaded a budget tool, but even though it’s ‘easy,’ I refuse to look at it because the process of doing so feels so stressful.” “My freelance client owes me money, but I haven’t followed-up on the invoice. Or maybe I didn’t send it in the first place…” Last month I wrote a post about demand avoidance, also known as “why it’s hard for me to do simple things like getting a driver’s license.” I got a lot of emails in response to that post, from readers sharing different stories of their own resistance to expectations. I also noticed a recurring theme in some of those messages: many of the examples that readers raised had to do with money.
As I mentioned in the earlier post, demand avoidance includes resistance to your own expectations, as well as to things that are good for you.The example above about the freelancer who hasn’t invoiced their clients is one I hear often. In fact, I once knew a freelancer who hadn’t invoiced their main client for two years. I’m not kidding—two years! Their main client! Now, you might think, well, that’s very dumb of them. But please keep in mind, that’s what they were telling themselves every day. (“This is dumb of me; why can’t I just do this simple thing?”)
So for most people with some version of this problem, the limiting factor isn’t lack of knowledge. It’s more likely: a) self-limiting behavior in the form of demand avoidance, and/or b) difficulty with the executive functions of task initiation or follow-through The Mo’ Money Day, Updated for Mental HealthIn one of my business books, I wrote about an exercise I called the Mo’ Money day. The gist is that you take half a day to sort out financial tasks, with a preference for taking action on ideas that will help you make money. You do things like:
I still think this can be a very helpful exercise! And sometimes the small actions can really add up. I remember one time early in my writing career when I went through some old blog posts to add Amazon affiliate links to my books. The next month I made several hundred dollars from those links, which was cool—but the much greater benefit was that I’d continue to earn commissions for a long time to come. Still, over time I’ve come to realize that this exercise is more helpful for some people than it is for others. Simply put, some people just get stuck when it comes to basic money tasks. As with other challenges like time blindness, adult ADHD, and dyscalculia, merely understanding WHY you struggle (or why you gravitate towards certain kinds of behavior) can be deeply empowering. You may or may not then go on to make changes, but the understanding has value on its own. We need a new Mo’ Money checklist, one updated for people who think they are “bad with money” but might actually be struggling with something else. Rest assured that I’m on the case. Expect an update in a few weeks, if not sooner—and for now, feel free to let me know if you have questions or suggestions on what should be included. Have you ever thought of yourself as being “bad with money”? What’s been difficult, and what have you learned along the way? You’re currently a free subscriber to 🌻 A Year of Mental Health. For the full experience, consider upgrading!
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