It's Time to Retire Toxic Ride-or-Die Culture
WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 07, 2022 |
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A celebration of the Latina/es who dare to be themselves wholly, authentically, purposefully, and unapologetically—even when that means deviating from traditional Latine culture and expectations. |
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| In a culture that remains steeped in machismo, many Black and Brown women continue to uphold marianismo, the idea that women must be pure, self-sacrificing, and completely devoted to their families and/or romantic partners. We see this among our elders as well as the young, independent, and feminist-minded. In media old and new, the ride-or-die character has been packaged as someone who is strong and aspirational. |
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| To me, friendship is among the most special relationships, and it must be celebrated. It's the only love affair I know that gives and takes in equal measure, that sees fully and respects wholly, and that grows together in harmony. |
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| I'm finally beginning to see my life as a single woman in a new light. This is not a phase, the in-between, or the before; my life is happening now. When people talk about relationships, we often think of romantic ones, but the longest relationship we will ever have is the one with ourselves. I once thought I'd have to wait for the right person to show me what love looks like, but it turns out I've been capable of it all along. |
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| To help us all enjoy that fun, summertime feeling, we've rounded up some Latina-led parties for you to attend this hot girl summer. Keep reading, find your city, and tell an amiguis to tell an amiguis. |
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| My burnout stems from a culture of marianismo that has taught me that womanhood is rooted in self-sacrifice, in overextending our bodies, our pockets, and our mental health, and riding-and-dying for other people and systems at our own expense. We can challenge this by living slowly. Here's how. |
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| One of my first acts of body reclamation was putting on a bathing suit again for the first time in 20 years and swimming in a pool with fat friends. Every summer since that one has been about reclaiming and rewriting my history as well as making room for myself and other up-and-coming 8-year-old guppy gorditas. Here's how! |
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| For many Latinas, the education in who not to be—the chola, the chonga, or the around the way girl—has led many of us to internalize shame about our racialized femininity. But not anymore. |
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| Mona Marie, a queer Afro-Latina pole dancer, instructor, and entrepreneur, is preserving the craft and wellness of pole and making space for Black and Brown folks in her community. |
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| Growing up mixed-race, I didn't meet either of my Peruvian or Korean identities' standards of beauty or femininity. I found freedom when I let go of these ideals and starting identifying as nonbinary. |
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| Latina punks have found freedom through the genre and subculture in multiple ways, whether that's musically, stylistically, ideologically, or ethically. They've carved out a space in the public sphere for female representation and expression while never conforming to societal expectations, or simply, "selling out." We spoke with seven Latina punk and punk-inspired artists who have subverted tradition and gendered expectations in Latine culture through the movement. |
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