🎁 Axios Finish Line: Taking the gift

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Open in app View in browser     Axios Finish Line By Mike Allen, Erica Pandey and Jim VandeHei ·Sep 01, 2022 Sep 01, 2022 Welcome back. Axios CEO Jim VandeHei is here with his weekly learnings on life and leadership. Share your thinking with him at jim@axios.com. Smart Brevity™ count: 552 words ... 2 mins.     1 big thing: How to take feedback Illustration: Lindsey Bailey/Axios   In the summer of 2004, hours before John Kerry's nomination speech at the Democratic convention, Washington Post political editor Maralee Schwartz gut-punched me with some brutal feedback. I was covering Kerry for The Post. But she said I didn't write fast enough or think big enough to capture this historic moment. John Harris (a Post star who later co-founded Politico with us) got the call instead. I was pissed. She was right. Why it matters: "Feedback is a gift," the management gurus say. But in my experience running two companies, it's a gift most don't truly want. It's true at work and in relationships. Every time my wife gives me feedback, I respond defensively, telling her all the reasons I rock. 😉 But learning to accept the gift with wisdom and humility is a superpower we all need. It's the gateway to growth. Whether in a workplace or a relationship, feedback — honest, no-B.S. insight on what you could do better — is priceless. Too many people mess it up by talking instead of listening.  Here's my blunt feedback about taking blunt feedback: Listen! Don't make excuses or talk about the past. Actually, don't talk at all. Soak up, with self-confidence and humility, what the person is saying and take time before responding. When they're finished, you can say, "Good point" if you agree … or, "I hear you" if you want to think more about it. Or just: "Thank you." Assume positive intent. The selfish approach for the other person would be to suppress what they really think. If someone has the guts to be frank with you, embrace it and thank them. When Mike asks for critiques from people, he says: "I promise to take it in the spirit it's intended." Don't be defensive. That's the worst response to helpful feedback. It makes the person giving it feel unheard — and less likely to shoot straight with you in the future. Ask for it. You're more likely to get feedback if you ask peers or superiors — in a sincere, humble, open-minded way — how you could be more effective. That projects strength, not weakness. Act on it. If you show you're responsive, you'll get more input. And you'll get better at life and on the job. Case in point: Often when you're giving a face-to-face review, people will validate and vindicate areas of weakness in the written eval. "Jim doesn't listen" or "Jim makes too many excuses" or "Jim doesn't welcome constructive criticism." If I then start excuse-peddling or butt-covering, I've kind of made their point.   The bottom line: Life is about forward motion. Elicit and take feedback to make your personal and professional performance tomorrow better than today. Share this story.     A message from Axios On-demand Smart Brevity® training for leaders     Heroic leadership — at every level — is about helping staff see what their company stands for and the values they need to succeed. Smart Brevity® is helping leaders at 300+ orgs deliver crisp, clear, and engaging comms that align staff. Become a Smart Brevity pro with this free course.     💭 One more thought Erica here! Here's my take on the gift of feedback, from the perspective of a rank-and-file employee. Leaders, don't be afraid to ask for 360 degrees of feedback, including from your direct reports. It builds trust by ensuring us our voices matter, which then brings out our best work. The best bosses solicit — and act on — blunt and respectful reviews from those below them.   Are you a fan of this email format? It's called Smart Brevity®. Over 300 orgs use it — in a tool called Axios HQ — to drive productivity with clearer workplace communications.   Axios thanks our partners for supporting our newsletters. If you're interested in advertising, learn more here. Sponsorship has no influence on editorial content. Axios, 3100 Clarendon B‌lvd, Arlington VA 22201   You received this email because you signed up for newsletters from Axios. Change your preferences or unsubscribe here.   Was this email forwarded to you? Sign up now to get Axios in your inbox.   Follow Axios on social media: