Very special offer: my publisher is making the digital version of TIME ANXIETY available for just $1.99 for U.S. readers this week only. ⏳ 💥 Purchase here or wherever you get your ebooks. (International readers: publishing agreements are specific to each country, so unfortunately the offer doesn’t work everywhere.) If You’re a Deep Thinker, You Might Not Be a Quick ThinkerWhen you remember what to say AFTER the conversation ends…
I don’t know about you, but I often think of exactly the right thing to say in a conversation about an hour after the conversation ends. Sometimes it’s ten minutes later, or sometimes it’s a whole day later, but either way the effect is the same. This extended response time is especially common for me whenever it’s a conversation where the stakes feel high: a conflict of some kind, perhaps, or when I’m around a bunch of smart people and feel like I should have something to contribute. I was recently in the second situation, in a room filled with smart people who all had quick-witted remarks and helpful commentary during a group discussion. I sat there and said almost nothing the whole time, even though the group was talking about topics that I know a good bit about. What was wrong with me? That’s why, when I heard this statement recently, I felt both affirmed and understood: “If you’re a deep thinker, you might not be a quick thinker.” Sure, it would be nice to be both a quick thinker and a deep thinker, but now that I’ve thought about it (for a long time, haha) I can see that many of us tend to fall into one of the two groups. And I’m certainly not on the quick side of the divide! Maybe it’s a core feature of being sensitive, and sensitivity is a gift—it’s not something you want to change or undo. Still, most positive traits come with tradeoffs, and this might be the natural companion to a tendency toward introspection. If you think deeply, you might not always think quickly. The upside is that deep thinkers often bring thoughtful perspectives that cut through surface-level chatter—we might speak less frequently, but when we do, it tends to be worth hearing. How do you feel about this idea? Are you more of a quick thinker or deep thinker? Take your time if you need. 🙂 You’re currently a free subscriber to 🌻 A Year of Mental Health. For the full experience, consider upgrading!
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If You’re a Deep Thinker, You Might Not Be a Quick Thinker
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August 26, 2025
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