Now this is a series to watch. Even though it's the opposite of the yacht rock doc. The yacht rock doc is about stars, this is about nobodies. And in truth, we're almost all nobodies.
I read about dating coach Logan Ury in the "New York Times" and did a podcast with her.
But then...
I hooked my buddy up with her, I told him to take her boot camp. Because his kid was gonna leave home and I wanted him to be hooked up before he felt the loss.
He followed my advice, which surprised me to begin with. And I didn't want to bug him, I didn't want to be that person. But I called him one day, with something minorly important, and I couldn't get ahold of him, and it was the middle of the afternoon and he was retired. He got back to me hours later and said I WAS ON A DATE!
Wow!
And now he's got a steady girlfriend. He had to kiss a number of frogs before he found her, but...
If I saw his profile, I would have dated him too.
That's what Logan taught him. Don't say you love dogs and long walks on the beach. Say something unique, that will stimulate conversation with a potential date. She tells you how to create the correct pictures, and if you want a taste, read her best-selling book, it's excellent:
"How to Not Die Alone": t.ly/KJrCr
It's a breeze. There are people you date and people you marry and so much more and...
My friend told me Logan had an upcoming Netflix series. And this is crucial, despite my interest, I was unaware of this production. Nothing spreads without word of mouth anymore. How do you create something so special that people will talk about it, that has more than train-wreck value.
So...
These are people over 50 who are looking for significant others.
And it's hilarious, because they've got so little self-knowledge, they're so wrapped up in their own little lives that they can't see how others perceive them. And they've got a list an arm's length long of requirements. Nobody gets everything they want, ever!
So one thing Logan says is to be VULNERABLE!
This is the essence of connection, this is why music is in such a bad space. If you can't reveal your faults, your flaws, present yourself as less than perfect...no one can connect with you. It's your flaws that make you lovable.
And she says another woman is operating with a 40 year old playbook, being coy. She won't commit to a second date, she's playing hard to get, she's delusional.
And another, who was married to Steve Marriott, I saw his picture and screamed, is so wrapped up in the past. Ever go on a date with someone who can't stop talking about their ex?
And at this age you're not looking for the love of your life, but companionship.
But there's the guy with OCD who won't admit it. So many people with OCD won't. They say they like order, they don't realize they leave no room for others.
And another who says inappropriate things... He asks a woman if she's had any work done.
And this same woman has a doctorate... Logan says to lay it all out there, don't hold back, don't play dumb, it never works. Although she shouldn't brag.
It's just hysterical watching all these people. They've all got money, they all have houses, some quite spectacular, but they're not rich. And they're not famous. And they're not going anywhere. They think they've got it together, the one thing they're missing is love and they can't figure out why they don't have it, they can't see inside themselves.
And then there's the woman who doesn't ask her date a single question.
This is 101, but so many people are uneducated and oblivious.
We're only two episodes in, but I can't stop thinking about this series, because it evidences humanity when we're surrounded by fakery. Celebrities who are bulletproof and influencers who are selling us 24/7. How about the rest of us?
The rest of us are on "The Later Daters," I highly recommend it.
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